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Decoupling Your ‘But’: What to say when a church member comes out to you
When a church member comes out to you as a church leader, your response matters more than you think. Learn 4 crucial things to say and 3 simple questions that help create safety, trust, and care in that moment.
How to Start LGBTQ Conversations in Your Church Leadership Team
Starting LGBTQ conversations in your church leadership team can feel loaded, risky, and overdue. This post offers 7 practical steps for pastors and elders who want to begin with wisdom, theological care, and emotional safety.
Should I Stay or Leave My Church?
For anyone asking “Should I stay or leave my church?”—this post brings together 10 powerful questions from Dr. Eric Seibert, insights from SCBT’s latest webinar, and practical steps to help you move forward faithfully.
Dear Christian Parents of LGBTQ Kids: We’re Sorry
When your child comes out, the church should be your support system — not your source of pain. This post is for Christian parents of LGBTQ kids who need to hear what the church should have said all along.
Third Way Church FAQ
Can a church honor Scripture and still hold diverse beliefs about LGBTQ people? This FAQ answers the most common questions about Third Way theology, posture, and practice. Plus what makes it different from affirming or non-affirming models.
What Does It Mean to Be a Third Way Church?
Third Way churches seek to hold theological convictions while creating space for LGBTQ people to belong. Here’s what it means and what it doesn’t.
My Top 10 LGBTQ & Christian Books of 2025
A curated list of the most thoughtful LGBTQ & Christian books I read in 2025—covering theology, scripture, gender, sexuality, and how Christians disagree with depth and integrity.
LGBTQ People and the Church: 31 Million Stories
Data shows 31 million LGBTQ adults have a faith background, yet many have been pushed out of church. What does this mean for your community?
You Can’t Wait for Your Senior Pastor: Students are Asking LGBTQ Questions Now
Students are asking LGBTQ questions now. Here’s how youth pastors can lead with clarity and care—even if their church isn’t ready.
When the Church Isn’t as Safe as the World
A gay Christian shares how LGBTQ+ friends offered more welcome than the church—and why belonging, clarity, and compassion matter now more than ever. LGBTQ Christian.
Reasonable vs. Right
What if the goal isn’t to be right, but to be reasonable? Explore how humility, curiosity, and dialogue shape faithful responses to LGBTQ+ questions.
How Do I Share LGBTQ Resources with My Pastor?
Here are the 5 principles to think about when you are planning on talking with your pastor about LGBTQ questions in a church that does not have open or helpful conversations about these things.
That NY Times Article: an Awkward Start
When I realized the journalist wanted a peek at some of my key journal entries, I froze. Sure, there was outright fear of what she’d think (or the hordes of people who might read them). But the real issue is that I’d need to share them first with Timothy.
3 Reasons Why Youth Pastors Struggle with LGBTQ Questions
Often, youth ministry is the first place where LGBTQ issues surface in the church. Youth workers often feel trapped because their students DEFINITELY want to talk about LGBTQ inclusion and yet so many times church leadership does NOT want to have those conversations.
My Top 10 LGBTQ Faith Books Read in 2024
Books on LGBTQ issues in the church abound. 2024 published many, and here are those top books plus a few more I read this year that I recommend. This list is split between conservative and progressive Christian interpretations around LGBTQ inclusion in the church.
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